I’m a Minimalist, I Swear

I’m a minimalist, I swear.

I repeat this to myself every time I step into our spare bedroom–but that doesn’t convince the bright orange kayak in the middle of the room.

We moved again last September to be closer to my partner’s work and to take advantage of the benefits of her being a city employee. We’d been looking at this area of Houston for a while, so the decision was a simple one to make.

We left behind our one-bed/one-bath apartment with a study, the smallest apartment we had ever shared, and moved into a larger two-bedroom apartment. The layout works well for us and provides ample living space, not to mention an interior staircase to avoid rainy-day climbs to the second floor. Parking is literally right outside our door. There isn’t quite as much light as our previous apartment but plenty of windows nonetheless. Plus a balcony.


What we didn’t consider was how much smaller the kitchen was in comparison to our old apartment–and how much kitchen stuff we own. When I say the kitchen at our last apartment was one of the largest living spaces, I’m not exaggerating. We actually had spare cabinets that sat empty. Looking back, this made it easy for me to assume we didn’t have excess kitchenware simply because we had plenty of storage for it all in our small apartment.

Don’t get me wrong: we sorted through our kitchen items before we packed and considered what all we needed, donating the excess. I thought we had culled our kitchenware to only the necessities, but I was way off.

When we began to unpack and set up shop in our new apartment, we quickly realized that we had a major problem. Our new kitchen was a third of the other kitchen, counterspace and all. We decided to sort out the true necessities and figure out where to put the rest later.

Later never came. The boxes of unused kitchenware and crockery has stayed in our spare room and, as all clutter tends to do, attracted more clutter. With the boxes taking up so much space, I couldn’t setup our bookshelf properly, which meant the large box of books stayed packed as well. As we sorted through other areas of our apartment, unpacking and reconsidering, we began letting go of more items that have collected in piles for donation and items we literally have no use for–bottled waters left over from Hurricane Harvey, an old chair we don’t use, and , ironically, two shelves we replaced to save space. Then Christmas came, which brought about more items to donate. And finally, because life didn’t think the room was complete without something bright to liven it up, our apartment manager asked us to move our bright orange kayak off our balcony because only patio furniture could be stored outside.

Yes, we have a bright orange kayak in the middle of our spare bedroom.

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The entire room is frustrating. All the more embarassing is the fact that we’ve been living here for five months. And it’s only gotten worse! When I look at individual items in the room, I know where they need to go or how we need to store them, but it’s like trying to clean out a garage that’s overpacked with tools. Unless stuff starts making it’s way out the door, there’s no room to make any changes.

I’m writing about this experience for two reasons. First, social media has nasty way of making other people’s lives appear perfect. It’s one of the reasons I no longer use Facebook. The urge to compare and compete is easy to catch, and it is terribly unhealthy. When I read others’ posts about minimalism, I am just as inspired by those who look like they have their lives together as those that look like they just started their journeys. It’s refreshing to see different stages of people’s progress. To be more open about my journey, I’m sharing my life as it is. I consider myself a minimalist, but my life can still be messy. And we keep most of the mess in the spare bedroom with the kayak.

Second, I’ve realized that I haven’t been completely honest with myself about my physical space. I mentally shut off that room so I don’t have to deal with the clutter, and that, just like comparison, is an unhealthy habit. When we moved, we had mentally dedicated that room to be a space for healthy activities. We still talk about building a desk so I have a dedicated writing space. We want a space to display and play our guitars and keyboard. I do best when I have a calm area for mediating and breathing exercises. The room has so much utility for our lives, but we leave it full of boxes and donation items. It’s time we own up to it.

This room will be a major project for me in the coming weeks. It will take small steps, a little here and a little there. But the idea of having a clean space with a desk and a bookshelf lined with paperbacks, a room where I can meditate and write, is inspiring enough to keep me moving.

And to know that I have made my physical space as clean and open as I can is a refreshing thought.

Being honest with myself and with you is a good step forward in taking control of my space and embracing minimalist practices. I encourage you to be honest with yourself about how you are practicing minimalism or how minimalism can help you tackle an areas of your life that you have longed to clean out. I know working toward a healthier space will do wonders for the stressors in our lives.

I’d love to hear what steps you can take this week toward a healthier space?


A Year Away: A Return to Minimalism

I never left minimalim, but it has been over a year since I last wrote a blog post.

It was an unintentional hiatus for many reasons, one of which was my realization that there were areas of my life in which I was unhappy. The past year has been an exploration in fitness, learning about and listening to my body, finances, my relationship with technology, self-care exercises, connecting with nature, and much more, and I can honestly say that I am in a much happier place than I was last February. Continue reading

Mindful Tuesday: Meditation with the Calm App

The modern workday is often rushed and leads to overwhelming sensations and frantic maneuvers to pack as much into each one as we can. They can be stressful, and expectations do not always leave room for mindfulness. I wrote a Mindful Tuesday post a while back to express how thankful I was for hot tea and a new podcast on a particularly mindful morning. The experience had a very positive effect on my day, knowing that I had put good intentions into sharing what had helped me remain centered and focused. So much so that I’ve taken to the idea of writing Mindful Tuesday posts more regularly to move me toward more mindful practices. Continue reading

Inbox Zero: Read, Restructure, and Remove

Today’s business world thrives on email communication where the modern workplace is constantly connected despite time zones and distance. It’s the innovation that propelled business into the technology era and ensures that most companies never truly close. It is the reason many cannot put down their phones even when they’re technically off the clock.

And I hate it.

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My Morning Routine

For the past three years, every morning as I picked up my bag to start my commute, I have told myself that one day I would make the bed before heading to work. This week I finally started doing it.

It’s not that I don’t like making the bed; I actually find it relaxing because it cleans up the entire room in one action and makes it look much easier to navigate. What has stopped me thus far has been our schedules, specifically my partner’s sleeping schedule that allowed her to sleep until well after I had left for work. And you simply can’t make the bed while someone is in it. Trust me.

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Rethinking Minimalist Purchasing

I say “purchasing” in the title because “shopping” can bring about interpretations of shopping binges, multiple purchases at one time, or even mindless consumerism, most of which minimalism rejects as unnecessary. “Purchasing,” however, brings to my mind the idea of how one spends her money, whether it be on a necessity or treat and what that goes to support in the way of her life as well as the areas of consumerism she supports. And as many minimalists like to tell us, there is a right and a wrong way to do it – however, we disagree with that mindset. I think it’s all about how you view purchasing in relation to your home.

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Major Savings: Post-Holiday Ham

The holidays are full of treats and sweets, and we had our fill this year. When we returned from visiting our families, one of the first things we had to do was refill our pantry and fridge. The shopping trip was a bit refreshing in that we were out of nearly everything, so we were able to start from scratch rather than make a list of items we were missing; however, we are always on the lookout for new meats to vary our meals. At our local HEB meat counter, we can find grass-fed options in ground beef, steaks, ground bison, bison cutlets, bison hotdogs, and ground turkey. There is also ground lamb, which made a delicious lamb shepherd’s pie, the perfect mid-winter meal, as well as bacon. But it still feels slightly limiting to us.

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Our Transition to Natural Ingredient Self-Care Products

Our path into minimalism has led us down many unexpected avenues and has caused us to reconsider many aspects of our lives–our diets, cleaning habits, shopping habits, financials, self-care, even our cat’s lifestyle–that I had not anticipated. However, I like how we now analyze our choices that were previously second nature; now we consider the consequences of our choices on ourselves and nature, both in how a product is made or delivered to us and in how we use it. A lot of our lifestyle changes over the past six months are connected through a web of intentionality, and one that my partner has delved into with me is what I would term grooming products: soaps, lotions, lip balms, hair products, shaving creams, and other products that we use on our bodies.

I actually didn’t see this one coming. Plastics and disposables I knew would eventually get nixed to be replaced with resuable items with more preferable structures like metal or glass. Even composting food scraps, which I am still trying to sort out in apartment living, was on my radar along with searching for the best route to focus on organic produce, but I simply had never considered the impact of what I put in my body by way of my skin and hair. I had only thought about what we ingested.

Several months ago, while reading on what non-organic and GMO foods introduce into our bodies, an article on the significance of commercial soaps caught my eye. I began reading about the chemicals that are used to create most shampoos, soaps, hair products, and makeup to ensure they do what we expect of them: lather, leave behind floral and “clean” smells, moisturize, stiffen hair, hold strands in place, darken our eyelashes, and even hide our blemishes. And after a while, I had scared myself into not wanting to shower. Just in looking at commercial body gels, I was overwhelmed to see the chemicals used to make them lather, turn them more pleasing colors, and give them a more preferred scent that lasts on our skin. Because those chemicals could be so harsh on our skin, more were added to counteract them, promising a moisturizing experience. I began to quickly realize why my skin was so dry and itchy all the time.

Around this same time, I experienced a skin irritation that caused my face to break out in small bumps along my hairline along with small red and dry patches. My scalp also began to break out, tingle and itch throughout the day, and even have a burning sensation at times. I switched hairsprays and found a little relief, but it was short-lived. After trying several different brands, I cut my hair to a more manageable length and dropped aerosol products altogether. Imagine my relief when all of those issues disappeared; for a reason I didn’t understand at the time, my body had reacted negatively to a product I had used my entire life and a brand I had been using for over two years.

This led me to research the contents of hair products as well, which are a plethora of chemicals that, when you consider what they do, should never be near your body. These products–soaps, shampoos, conditioners, hair gels, spray-on products, and hair sprays included–use small amounts chemicals that are approved for human use. However, many of these chemicals are only approved at small doses. The argument that companies make is that being exposed to a small amount of a chemical, such as sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS) which is added to make soaps and shampoos foam, does not cause any adverse effects. The issue, however, is that companies have not done enough testing to prove that consistent exposure over long periods of time do not cause adverse effects as well.

Consider how much shampoo you use each day. It is unlikely that your body will flush itself entirely of the amount of SLS that it has absorbed before your next shower, meaning that the chemical can build up in your system. Over time that buildup can begin to cause reactions or create allergies. Add to it that many of the chemicals in self-care products are used in several products, increasing the amount you are exposed to throughout the day, and your exposure rate jumps even further. SLS, for example, is also found in Anti-Bacterial Kleenex. Again, it’s a small percent, but when combined with the SLS in the shampoo from your shower and the soap you used to wash your hands four times today, your exposure rate is much higher than what the government approved as a “safe” level of exposure to SLS. This constant exposure and buildup of chemicals in our bodies can have any form of adverse effects, including development of allergies or sudden reactions like mine.

Think of that the next time you grab for a tissue.

Once I had read up on the ingredients in our self-care routines, we began the search for replacement products without these chemicals. It’s not simple to find such products, especially on a budget and with particular features in mind. For example, my partner and I have very different types of hair. Mine is fine, thin, and a blondish brown with absolutely no natural body to it; it’s straight and dries out easily. Her hair is thick, slightly wavy, and red with the perfect natural body to pull off short hair. Mine needs assistance every single day and rarely goes where I want it; hers can pull off styled or bed head with a little touch of product and stays wherever she leaves it. Finding one product that would work for both of us–one of our goals for using safer products on a budget–was a challenge.

The same can be said of soaps and shampoos. One has a drier scalp and the other has dryer skin. Our faces react differently to products, we prefer different smells, and our preferred texture in lip balm has us using different brands at night. Not to mention, once we found products, we had to try them and see if our bodies even liked them. Our goals were lofty considering our consumerist society and commercial advantages of some brands, but we outlined what we were looking for as we went–finding safer products that:

— used ingredients we understood and could trace to their origins;

— were affordable, which had to include shipping costs if they couldn’t be found locally;

— met our other standards such as using only sustainable palm oil (if it was an ingredient) and coming as close to zero waste as possible; and

— accomplished the self-care we were wanting (i.e. styled our hair the way we wanted, gave us clearer skin).

It was a lot to shoot for, but I’m happy to say that thus far our efforts have been productive. In a few upcoming blog posts, I’ll highlight some of the products that we found work for us and that we continue to use. Not all of the products we have tried have worked as well as we had hoped, but honest reviews are the best way to help others make similar transitions. I hope our experiences will point some readers in the right direction if they, too, are looking for safer alternatives to the popular commercial brands.

Watch for more posts in the coming weeks and be sure to let me know if you have preferred brands that you think we might enjoy! If you don’t, fret not–you’ll have some recommendations coming your way soon. And if you are not quite on the more natural product train yet, you might find the articles interesting nonetheless, especially if you read the ingredient list on your shampoo the next time you shower.

Do you use more natural products? What led or is leading you to look for safer alternatives to commercial brands?

Lifestyle Goals, Not Resolutions

Our new year kicked off with a start–my partner got a call offering her a well-deserved position with a local city department, and it feels like the last two weeks have been a rush of preparation that comes with changes in employers: insurance, doctor approvals, filling out information, new schedules, and what some call the good stress of moving in the right direction. Add to that a move in my office to a new floor in the same building, and we’ve both been a little frantic since we returned to work on January 3rd.

The start of a new year is a great time to make changes, as many of our resolutions lead us to believe; however, the optimism that comes with January appearing on our calendars rarely survives through spring and often fades as we neglect to make time for the gym, cave into food cravings, and justify skipping a savings deposit in lieu of working toward funding an emergency fund. It’s so common that my partner and I joke that the third week of the new year is the best time to go to the gym because all of the newbies who committed to losing weight have discovered that rushing into weightlifting without preparation does little more than leave you sore and hating your muscles after two weeks of painful recovery days. That’s why we skip resolutions and focus on two ways to make our year beneficial.

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Minimalist & Less-Waste Planning for Holiday Trips

This holiday had us traveling and giving and opening gifts are both of our families’ abodes, which I didn’t truly digest until a few days before we set out for our trips. As I started packing for our trip, I realized there were a lot of items we wanted to take with us that were either going to create waste by us using them or were going to create waste just by nature of what they were (such as gift wrap). For the first time we had to consider how we were going to create a footprint on our trips and how we could accommodate the issue.

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