Intentional Self-Care

I took a sick day today. The binging-mysteries-on-Netflix, napping-with-the-cat-and-heating-pad, drinking-hot-tea kind of sick day.

It was neither the flu nor the general bug that always seems to be making its way around. Instead, it was a mix of an emotional two weeks, my body adjusting to being off of a long-time medication, and the underlying anxiety of it all. In other words, I took a sick day because of life.

I’ve discovered since entering the corporate world that sick days, even vacation time, is viewed as a luxury. Explaining a missed workday without doctor’s note for the flu or a family emergency has gotten me odd looks, while coworkers have asked me how I got to take a full week’s vacation (that I had earned and saved up) when I had only been at a company for a year.

The concept of taking time for ourselves, even when most companies grant time for it, is lost on most of us.

As part of our journey into minimalism, we have set one our goals on self-care with the intention of focusing on our physical and mental health. While simple in words, undoing a habit of putting your own needs behind others’ takes time and intention. But a few, simple changes in our interactions helped us refocus our energy on our own health, putting others second and letting go of the guilt that comes with it.

Aligning your methods for self-care with your life values will also help you move toward a simpler, more intentional life.

Asking for help

One of the simplest and most beneficial things we do is ask each other for help when we need it. My partner has a condition that affects her joints; when it flares, it can be painful to walk or reach or grip. I have anxiety and OCD tendencies. Both of us occasionally struggle with daily activities.

We both used to try to do things on our own when we we’re having trouble, but we’ve learned over time that asking for each other’s help simplifies matters tremendously. And it benefits both of us. Admitting when I can’t do something by myself gains me the support I need while granting her the opportunity to support me. It strengthens our relationship while making our lives easier.

By aligning self-care with our goal to support each other, it keeps us from feeling like we are going at everything on our own while making life a little easier.


Sometimes we forget to stop and breathe. Taking time to rest is a necessity to keeping our bodies and minds at their best. When we sleep or rest, our muscles, our minds included, are able to recover from the constant running at the hamster wheel.

Too often, however, we overlook the fact that we are not actually resting our minds and bodies when we think we are taking a break. We are watching television, scrolling on social media, texting, chatting with friends. Taking a true rest means taking control of your focus and centering it on your breath and your body. Self-care means focusing on your breathing and giving your muscles a chance to take their own breaths.


Water. Water. Water.

It’s as simple as that. Few of us drink enough water to keep up with the demands we put on our minds and bodies. I didn’t understand the significance of staying hydrated until I began drinking water throughout the day at my partner’s insistence. It’s amazing what a glass of water will do for our bodies,  taking care of symptoms of dehydration that we often ignore: headaches, stomach aches, foggy-headiness, sluggishness.

A regular glass of water is one of the best methods for ensuring self-care.

Staying Aware

We get most of our nutrients from our diet, but not all bodies are made equal. At the insistence of our nutritionist, I recently took a blood test and discovered that my body does not convert B vitamins into their necessary forms. As a result, I was deficient in more than one vitamin, which had been causing at least two bothersome symptoms for the majority of my adult life. A mutlivitamin and a vitamin B supplement later, and I’m already on my way to feeling better.

Self-care requires us to stay on top of how our bodies are working. While not everyone is up to working with a nutritionist, I do recommend that even those who feel healthy have a blood test to ensure all is as it should be. It’s interesting the little things that doctors don’t think to consider when it comes to traditional medicine.

Mental Health

The new phrase is taking a mental health day and for good reason. Whatever it is that gives you peace of mind–reading, exercising, meditating–do that. It does no good to focus solely on our bodies when our minds do at least half the work.

Self-care includes focusing on mental health. This can be as simple as taking time for something that relieves stress to talking to someone who can teach you techniques for better mental health. By incorporating time to ensure good mental health, we find that life is a little less overwhelming and are able to focus on the good every day.

My self-care day was brought on by life and my body telling me it was time to take a break and let everything reset. But a few hours of rest, hydration, and listening to my body is all I need to get back on track because we have learned that practicing self-care is an important part of a well-centered, intentional life.

Self-care is often overlooked, but incorporating it into your daily life as a part of living honestly can make a difference in how you approach life–and how life approaches you. How we go about it is unique to our situation: how you go about it will be unique to you as well.

However you do it, practice self-care honestly and in line with your values and goals. It will do you well.


Staying Centered

Aloe vera plant

If minimalism has taught me anything, it is that I do not know myself as well as I think I do.

This is a fact that never changes and it is true for everyone. Over the past few weeks, we have had a rollercoaster of emotions, some beautiful and most life-changing, but as with everything, they’ve reminded me why it is imperative to stay centered.

Life keeps going and it’ll drag you right along with it if you aren’t anchored to something.

My fiancé and her office mate had a grow table in their shared space that had to be taken down to make room for new items. Without the light, several of the plants died, but one hardy aloe vera plant continued to grow. She brought it home two weeks ago to give it a safe space to stretch and to give us a second chance at being green thumbs after we lost all of our plants in the unseasonal freeze.

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Mindful Tuesday: Meditation with the Calm App

The modern workday is often rushed and leads to overwhelming sensations and frantic maneuvers to pack as much into each one as we can. They can be stressful, and expectations do not always leave room for mindfulness. I wrote a Mindful Tuesday post a while back to express how thankful I was for hot tea and a new podcast on a particularly mindful morning. The experience had a very positive effect on my day, knowing that I had put good intentions into sharing what had helped me remain centered and focused. So much so that I’ve taken to the idea of writing Mindful Tuesday posts more regularly to move me toward more mindful practices. Continue reading

My Morning Routine

For the past three years, every morning as I picked up my bag to start my commute, I have told myself that one day I would make the bed before heading to work. This week I finally started doing it.

It’s not that I don’t like making the bed; I actually find it relaxing because it cleans up the entire room in one action and makes it look much easier to navigate. What has stopped me thus far has been our schedules, specifically my partner’s sleeping schedule that allowed her to sleep until well after I had left for work. And you simply can’t make the bed while someone is in it. Trust me.

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Rethinking Minimalist Purchasing

I say “purchasing” in the title because “shopping” can bring about interpretations of shopping binges, multiple purchases at one time, or even mindless consumerism, most of which minimalism rejects as unnecessary. “Purchasing,” however, brings to my mind the idea of how one spends her money, whether it be on a necessity or treat and what that goes to support in the way of her life as well as the areas of consumerism she supports. And as many minimalists like to tell us, there is a right and a wrong way to do it – however, we disagree with that mindset. I think it’s all about how you view purchasing in relation to your home.

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Major Savings: Post-Holiday Ham

The holidays are full of treats and sweets, and we had our fill this year. When we returned from visiting our families, one of the first things we had to do was refill our pantry and fridge. The shopping trip was a bit refreshing in that we were out of nearly everything, so we were able to start from scratch rather than make a list of items we were missing; however, we are always on the lookout for new meats to vary our meals. At our local HEB meat counter, we can find grass-fed options in ground beef, steaks, ground bison, bison cutlets, bison hotdogs, and ground turkey. There is also ground lamb, which made a delicious lamb shepherd’s pie, the perfect mid-winter meal, as well as bacon. But it still feels slightly limiting to us.

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Our Transition to Natural Ingredient Self-Care Products

Our path into minimalism has led us down many unexpected avenues and has caused us to reconsider many aspects of our lives–our diets, cleaning habits, shopping habits, financials, self-care, even our cat’s lifestyle–that I had not anticipated. However, I like how we now analyze our choices that were previously second nature; now we consider the consequences of our choices on ourselves and nature, both in how a product is made or delivered to us and in how we use it. A lot of our lifestyle changes over the past six months are connected through a web of intentionality, and one that my partner has delved into with me is what I would term grooming products: soaps, lotions, lip balms, hair products, shaving creams, and other products that we use on our bodies.

I actually didn’t see this one coming. Plastics and disposables I knew would eventually get nixed to be replaced with resuable items with more preferable structures like metal or glass. Even composting food scraps, which I am still trying to sort out in apartment living, was on my radar along with searching for the best route to focus on organic produce, but I simply had never considered the impact of what I put in my body by way of my skin and hair. I had only thought about what we ingested.

Several months ago, while reading on what non-organic and GMO foods introduce into our bodies, an article on the significance of commercial soaps caught my eye. I began reading about the chemicals that are used to create most shampoos, soaps, hair products, and makeup to ensure they do what we expect of them: lather, leave behind floral and “clean” smells, moisturize, stiffen hair, hold strands in place, darken our eyelashes, and even hide our blemishes. And after a while, I had scared myself into not wanting to shower. Just in looking at commercial body gels, I was overwhelmed to see the chemicals used to make them lather, turn them more pleasing colors, and give them a more preferred scent that lasts on our skin. Because those chemicals could be so harsh on our skin, more were added to counteract them, promising a moisturizing experience. I began to quickly realize why my skin was so dry and itchy all the time.

Around this same time, I experienced a skin irritation that caused my face to break out in small bumps along my hairline along with small red and dry patches. My scalp also began to break out, tingle and itch throughout the day, and even have a burning sensation at times. I switched hairsprays and found a little relief, but it was short-lived. After trying several different brands, I cut my hair to a more manageable length and dropped aerosol products altogether. Imagine my relief when all of those issues disappeared; for a reason I didn’t understand at the time, my body had reacted negatively to a product I had used my entire life and a brand I had been using for over two years.

This led me to research the contents of hair products as well, which are a plethora of chemicals that, when you consider what they do, should never be near your body. These products–soaps, shampoos, conditioners, hair gels, spray-on products, and hair sprays included–use small amounts chemicals that are approved for human use. However, many of these chemicals are only approved at small doses. The argument that companies make is that being exposed to a small amount of a chemical, such as sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS) which is added to make soaps and shampoos foam, does not cause any adverse effects. The issue, however, is that companies have not done enough testing to prove that consistent exposure over long periods of time do not cause adverse effects as well.

Consider how much shampoo you use each day. It is unlikely that your body will flush itself entirely of the amount of SLS that it has absorbed before your next shower, meaning that the chemical can build up in your system. Over time that buildup can begin to cause reactions or create allergies. Add to it that many of the chemicals in self-care products are used in several products, increasing the amount you are exposed to throughout the day, and your exposure rate jumps even further. SLS, for example, is also found in Anti-Bacterial Kleenex. Again, it’s a small percent, but when combined with the SLS in the shampoo from your shower and the soap you used to wash your hands four times today, your exposure rate is much higher than what the government approved as a “safe” level of exposure to SLS. This constant exposure and buildup of chemicals in our bodies can have any form of adverse effects, including development of allergies or sudden reactions like mine.

Think of that the next time you grab for a tissue.

Once I had read up on the ingredients in our self-care routines, we began the search for replacement products without these chemicals. It’s not simple to find such products, especially on a budget and with particular features in mind. For example, my partner and I have very different types of hair. Mine is fine, thin, and a blondish brown with absolutely no natural body to it; it’s straight and dries out easily. Her hair is thick, slightly wavy, and red with the perfect natural body to pull off short hair. Mine needs assistance every single day and rarely goes where I want it; hers can pull off styled or bed head with a little touch of product and stays wherever she leaves it. Finding one product that would work for both of us–one of our goals for using safer products on a budget–was a challenge.

The same can be said of soaps and shampoos. One has a drier scalp and the other has dryer skin. Our faces react differently to products, we prefer different smells, and our preferred texture in lip balm has us using different brands at night. Not to mention, once we found products, we had to try them and see if our bodies even liked them. Our goals were lofty considering our consumerist society and commercial advantages of some brands, but we outlined what we were looking for as we went–finding safer products that:

— used ingredients we understood and could trace to their origins;

— were affordable, which had to include shipping costs if they couldn’t be found locally;

— met our other standards such as using only sustainable palm oil (if it was an ingredient) and coming as close to zero waste as possible; and

— accomplished the self-care we were wanting (i.e. styled our hair the way we wanted, gave us clearer skin).

It was a lot to shoot for, but I’m happy to say that thus far our efforts have been productive. In a few upcoming blog posts, I’ll highlight some of the products that we found work for us and that we continue to use. Not all of the products we have tried have worked as well as we had hoped, but honest reviews are the best way to help others make similar transitions. I hope our experiences will point some readers in the right direction if they, too, are looking for safer alternatives to the popular commercial brands.

Watch for more posts in the coming weeks and be sure to let me know if you have preferred brands that you think we might enjoy! If you don’t, fret not–you’ll have some recommendations coming your way soon. And if you are not quite on the more natural product train yet, you might find the articles interesting nonetheless, especially if you read the ingredient list on your shampoo the next time you shower.

Do you use more natural products? What led or is leading you to look for safer alternatives to commercial brands?

Lifestyle Goals, Not Resolutions

Our new year kicked off with a start–my partner got a call offering her a well-deserved position with a local city department, and it feels like the last two weeks have been a rush of preparation that comes with changes in employers: insurance, doctor approvals, filling out information, new schedules, and what some call the good stress of moving in the right direction. Add to that a move in my office to a new floor in the same building, and we’ve both been a little frantic since we returned to work on January 3rd.

The start of a new year is a great time to make changes, as many of our resolutions lead us to believe; however, the optimism that comes with January appearing on our calendars rarely survives through spring and often fades as we neglect to make time for the gym, cave into food cravings, and justify skipping a savings deposit in lieu of working toward funding an emergency fund. It’s so common that my partner and I joke that the third week of the new year is the best time to go to the gym because all of the newbies who committed to losing weight have discovered that rushing into weightlifting without preparation does little more than leave you sore and hating your muscles after two weeks of painful recovery days. That’s why we skip resolutions and focus on two ways to make our year beneficial.

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Our First Intentional Gift-Giving Christmas

Christmas is just a few days away, and, now that the holiday is nearing, it seems like time is finally slowing down. A few nights ago, my partner and I gave each other the gifts we had gotten for each other. We set a goal this year of trying to spend less money and only purchasing gifts that were functional. They could be surprises and even funny or unique but they would be practical in one form or another. We didn’t necessarily meet the first goal, though we might have spent a little less given that several of our purchases were on sale, but we embraced our purposeful gift giving very well!

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The Wonderful Utility of Glass Jars

Well, it’s been a steep month since I last posted. I could list reasons, but the reality is that, after feeling a little overwhelmed, I took a leave of absence from certain social media sites. And that spilled over to minimal internet activity altogether, WordPress included. I could have announced my brief reprieve from blogging, but it wasn’t planned, more of a spur-of-the-moment, post-election, pre-holiday season sort of reclusiveness. At any rate, I’ve re-evaluated how I want to get along with the internet, and I’m quite pleased with my new routine: Instagram once or twice a day (there is such little opinion and bias in the accounts I follow, which simplifies the purpose so much for me), Pinterest a few times a week when looking for ways to be productive or crafty, and WordPress.

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